Assistant Editor's Two Cents
As the seasons change, so do the people, when it comes to relationships there is a fine line between liking someone and being in love with someone. Many people tend to confuse the two and make various excuses. If you have a strong liking for someone then why beat around the bush? Take the next step. Not saying marriage, but a real relationship, sometimes talking to someone can go but so far. Everyone is afraid to get hurt, like it or not some choose to wear their heart on their sleeves while others cover it up with toughness.
If you plan on "talking" to someone, then get to know them, how long does it really take for you to talk to someone before you realize you want to be with them? You do the things people in relationships do, but sometimes you think in your mind are you really in a relationship. You say you want to get to know someone and "talk," but when they don't want to be with you it's called a relationship? Some people think your talking while others and the family think you're together? It gets pretty confusing when you do not receive the clarity. That's how a lot of women go a tad bit crazy because they do not know what they mean to men and vice-versa --- it's just that some guys do not go to the full extreme of craziness. You are not sure you have the title or not but you do not do anything to disrespect the person or mess around with anyone else. Then it hits you like a ton of bricks and the person you saw yourself with no longer wants to be with you or even talk to you. It's not your fault, but their fault, no really it is.
When it comes to feelings a lot of people get really emotional, when a male cries in front of a girl for certain reasons, it shows he has a heart. It says you are a human being but don't get too emotional. No female wants an all-around sensitive guy, heartaches and breaks are tough to rekindle. Not everyone can be friends with their ex, there will come a time when one person moves on the other will realize what they had was gone. It is tough to open up to people especially if there was people in their past who did them dirty. Everyone deserves a clean slate. If everyone brought their past baggage into a new relationship, and faulted the last person for their mindset, then people would just be alone.
Opening up to people takes a lot of time, but when you tell someone how you really feel, what is the worse that could happen? I know what you are thinking, but you never know how someone really feels unless you ask or make an attempt to try and open up. Some people would like to be alone for the time being just so they can figure out who they are and try to open up. The bad thing about that is when you try so hard to get the person you are interested in they find someone else. All the work you have done to try to get that person to open up will become so easy for the next person who comes along.
Never rush to get into a relationship, it takes time, but do not talk forever and the heart needs time to heal. Still live your life, moping is so overrated. You are still young, just take your time and focus on the prize and your near future.